Emil DePetris

Obituary of Emil F. DePetris


On Tuesday, October 30, 2018, Emil F. DePetris died peacefully at the age of 98, having been surrounded by family at Southampton Hospital.  A native of Bridgehampton, "Mid" ultimately settled in Southampton where he lived an admirable life, succeeding professionally as an attorney, maintaining an active role in his community and church, and being the consummate husband, father, grandfather and great-grandfather.


Emil was the first-born son of two Italian immigrants, Anthony DePetris and Brigida Cataldi, who settled in Bridgehampton, NY in 1919, after emigrating from Piedelama, Italy.  Emil grew up working at the family grocery store in Bridgehampton, and became the first in his family in many regards, first graduating at the top of his class from Bridgehampton High School, then attending Cornell University for pre-law, and subsequently Columbia Law School.  He had only completed one year when WWII broke out and he was drafted.  He married his wife, Arlene Wines, a Southampton native, just one month before entering the service, and they were happily married for 76 years.  After WWII ended, Emil returned to his studies and ultimately graduated from Columbia Law School.  He was the first of three generations of DePetris family members to graduate from Columbia Law School.


After finishing law school, Emil returned home and began working for a law firm in Riverhead.  He ultimately became a partner of the Riverhead law firm, and one of his sons later became a partner as well.  Emil was a prominent attorney who served as Quogue Village Attorney and Southampton Village attorney for more than two decades.  All three of his sons followed in his footsteps in becoming lawyers.


Emil was predeceased by his parents, his brother (Francis DePetris), his two sisters (Mary Gough and Nancy Phillips), and his son (David DePetris).


Emil is survived by his wife of 76 years, Arlene Wines DePetris; his sons, Ronald and Richard DePetris, and their wives Susan and Nancy; his daughter-in-law Pat; four grandchildren (David Jr., Richard Jr., Laruen and Melissa); and six great-grandchildren (David III, Danielle, Michael, Hailey, Ava and Avery).