Our Staff

We take great pride in serving our community and helping to guide you through this difficult journey.  We are family owned and operated, father and son working side by side to care for our community.  

John D. Abbate 

John grew up in West Hempstead, NY. He did his undergraduate work at Hofstra University and then his Funeral Director schooling at American Academy McAllister Institute in NYC. He was employed for five years as a licensed Funeral Director at the Chester A. Fulton & Son, Inc. Funeral Home in Freeport, which he purchased in 1980. After marrying the love of his life, Valerie, his first two sons were born, Dominick and Anthony. It was at this point in his life in 1990, that he had the opportunity to purchase the Brockett Funeral Home, Inc. in Southampton from Paul Bauer. Paul had successfully run the Funeral Home for over 28 years, having taken over the business from its founder, Everett Brockett. At age 55, with heart problems, Paul saw it was time to pass the baton over to another young family, who would nurture the business and become a part of the Southampton community. Tragically, six months after purchasing the Funeral Home from Paul, Paul died of a heart attack. John and Valerie were quickly welcomed into the community and became the heart and soul of the Brockett Funeral Home. They were blessed with two more children, Vincent and Andrea. All four children attended Southampton public schools and all were Southampton High School graduates. Dominick graduated from the College of the Holy Cross, Anthony from High Point University, Vincent from College of Charleston, and Andrea will be graduating from Emory University in the spring of 2017.

Many people would be hard pressed to raise a family in a funeral home, but John and Valerie rose to the challenge and their children became more aware of just how fragile our lives can be, and in our darkest hours, it's the support of family and the community that make a difference. John has been a member of the Southampton Rotary Club since 1991, serving as its President from 1999-2000.

In 2014, Dominick, not happy in the financial world of business, decided to become a licensed Funeral Director, and in 2016 began working side by side with his father. The next generation will now take Brockett's into the future and celebrate 100 years of dedication to the Southampton community in 2022.

Dominick J. Abbate 

Dominick, a licensed funeral director in the State of New York, is a second generation director and native of Southampton.  After graduating from Southampton High School, Dominick went on to earn his Bachelor of Arts at The College of the Holy Cross in Worcester, Massachusetts where he studied Economics and Anthropology.  While attending Holy Cross, Dominick spent his junior year abroad living in La Coruña, Spain,  knowing the importance of fluency in Spanish given the changing demographics of our town and society at large. Shortly thereafter he began his career at a financial firm receiving his Series 7, Series 66, and New Jersey Life Insurance licenses. Despite these accomplishments, Dominick soon realized that a career in finance was not for him. He sought a profession that would allow him to make a positive impact on his community, but ultimately did not find that kind of satisfaction in his financial career. After working for several years in the financial industry, Dominick felt a calling to follow in his father’s footsteps and went to school to become a funeral director. He graduated from the renown American Academy McAllister Institute of Funeral Service in 2014 in New York City, marking the beginning of his transition from financial planner to funeral director.  Dominick began his residency at Yardley & Pino Funeral Home in Sag Harbor and East Hampton, afterwards transitioning to work at Ballard-Durand Funeral and Cremation Services in White Plains, NY.  Here, Dominick gained valuable instruction and guidance from the owner, Matthew Fiorillo, who is among the top progressive leaders in the funeral industry.  Dominick is excited to bring this plethora of new knowledge and experience back to Southampton to complement how we honor and celebrate the lives of neighbors and friends in our community.

Dominick is also a professional musician, he was the former music director and organist at the Old Whalers' Presbyterian Church in Sag Harbor, as well as organist and choir director at Queen of the Most Holy Rosary Roman Catholic Church in Bridgehampton.  He is currently the music director and organist at the Basilica Parish of the Sacred Hearts of Jesus and Mary in Southampton. He currently resides in Southampton with his wife, Christine, a registered nurse at Stony Brook Hospital.

Vincent G. Abbate 

Vincent grew up assisting his father in the family business where he cultivated exceptional communication and collaboration skills.  He plays an important role at the funeral home, working with his father, John, and older brother, Dominick. After graduating from the College of Charleston with a degree in International Relations, Vincent moved back to Southampton.  He will be pursuing his funeral directors license at  American Academy McAllister Institute of Funeral Service in New York City.

Vincent enjoys spending time outdoors and has a passion for fishing and surfing